#MotivationalMonday – A Meme A Day Keeps Negativity Away

It feels like this Monday has totally sucker punched us a belter. To grace you through the afternoon  take  5 minutes away from your busy day to laugh. Yes, laugh. You might get the odd look that your a complete weirdo, but laughing soothes the soul and even if it’s over nothing, it releases positive endorphines. And no better way to help with this process is a ruddy good meme. We all have a meme queen in our friendship groups (we certainly do!) and no matter how horrific the day has been they manage to sneak a smile on our faces. So we are gracing you with a few of our favourite memes to help you conquer those Monday blues.. Remember, be bold, be brash, be you

 

#MotivationalMonday – A Meme A Day Keeps Negativity Away

#NoHateJust… Amber Rose

108045033_amber-rose-zoom-98cac0e2-4dbf-45e9-b035-fdf84bcd73ce.jpgSlut. Fame whore. Gold digger. Everything Amber Rose has been deemed and everything she most certainly is not. The Philly born celebrity has been caught up in some intense stories over the years, yet the star has kept her head held high and not let a thing knock her down. From hosting her first #SlutWalk to combat sexual injustice, to launching her brilliant book How To Be A Bad Bitch,  Miss Rose is a woman not to be messed with – and many of us should inspire to have her strong, positive attitude.

Go through her socials and you see a woman who is confident to not just show her own amazing body, but share love for every type of womanly shape out there. She gets trolledAmber-Rose.jpg daily for her look and lifestyle, yet this woman is promoting a healthy image and love for everyone, no matter what their back round is. I mean, being best buds with Amy Schumer helps with this (another female we ADORE!) Amber Rose shares no secrets in how she got to where she is today, and proves that no matter what you must work hard to capture your dreams. Who cares if she was a stripper? Who cares if she spoke out about her raucous of a relationship with the crazy that is Kanye West. The woman has grown, and made a career in this cut throat industry. And she’s open about that, what’s not to love? She has proved that she is more than just “just a stripper of the past” and in fact, a head strong woman.

Aside from the celebrity chit chat, Amber Rose shows passion. Whether being an advocate to stop slut shaming, to the unadulterated love she shares for her baby boy, the girl has passion. If she can teach us one thing it is most definitely that.

Miss Rose, we salut you!

#NoHateJust… Amber Rose

Drag Wednesday: All drag is valid.

Good evening everyone! Drag Wednesday has sashayed it’s way around once again.

This week, after seeing yet more bitching and moaning online about what “real” drag is and how certain types of drag are not drag at all.

Well, I’m not a drag queen, I’m not actively involved in the drag “scene” so I’m only commenting as an outsider. Someone who goes to shows, follows drag online and follows drag related TV shows so I’m not a professional by any means.

But here are my thoughts: drag is individual, there is no formula to drag. There’s an idea of drag which is ingrained in people’s minds as a hyperfeminine character. Yes, most queens nowadays fit that bill. People of all genders (because cis males aren’t the only people out there doing drag as people often think) doing drag mostly choose the hyperfeminine, glamourous drag most often observed in pageants. But there’s more to drag than gowns and looking like your a-typical beautiful woman.

There are no boundaries when it comes to drag. Your aesthetic is individual to you. Whether you want to be dolled up and slaying in a sequin gown, embracing your facial hair in bearded drag, stepping outside the box in more abstract drag or whatever you want to do, that’s okay. Your drag is valid and nobody should be questioning it.

There’s abuse hurled at queens over social media, groups of people having slanging matches over what’s right and what’s wrong when it comes to drag. Well the truth is, this isn’t a cookie cutter world that should be filled with cookie cutter queens. Like I said, drag is individual and nobody should try to take what you want to portray away from you. Get up, get dressed, fix your face and own that shit because that’s what makes you, you!

If you’re one of the guilty parties trying to say you know better and that what you say is gospel, you need to take a good look at the world around you. Look further into drag and different styles of drag. You’ll see yourself that we as humans, never mind individuals doing drag, aren’t all the same. Our styles aren’t all the same, the way we dress, walk, do our make-up, wear our hair, isn’t the same! So why should drag be the same.

A drag persona is just that, a persona. A character that a queen has developed, built up and put a fuckton of work into perfecting. It’s not your place to drag them down. Unless you’re sitting on a judging panel at a pageant or on a show like RPDR, your job is to sit down, watch a show and respect what another artist is doing. Because you don’t know what their inspiration is, you don’t know how hard they’ve worked to master their craft and you just don’t get to try and influence what makes them happy. Can you imagine how it would feel if someone tried to mould you into someone that you’re not just because they don’t like who you are or don’t respect who you are as a person? Remember there’s a real person underneath all that make-up and hair. A person with feelings.

The ultimate goal in a person’s life is to be happy and comfortable. Comfortable in their life, their career, their own skin. If someone’s drag isn’t your cup of tea then that’s your opinion. Hey, there’s queens in the world that I don’t like, that I’m not keen on their style of drag. But that doesn’t mean that their drag isn’t valid. It means it’s not to my taste. Just the same way I don’t like salt and vinegar crisps but I’m not going to write to Golden Wonder and tell them I think that their salt and vinegar crisps are shit and that they should stop making them because I don’t like them. Other people are quite fond of salt and vinegar. And that’s okay because a crisp is still a crisp, even if they’re salt and vinegar.

I’ve gone off on a tangent… so the point I’m trying (and possibly failing) to make is that not every style of drag is for everyone. Variety is the spice of life and all that jazz. You need to take off the blinkers and open your eyes to the fact that there is a whole world of drag out there. So many styles, so many different performances, so much creativity. If you don’t explore, you might just miss out.

In short, respect each other, respect your queens, and just appreciate drag for what it is. An art form. Whether you love it or hate it, it is what it is and we just need to get on. In the words of Rupaul herself “Everybody say love.”

Until next time, don’t forget to slay all day, everyday.

x Marianne x

Drag Wednesday: All drag is valid.

#motivationalmondays


Monday looms again. Deary. Dull. Oh wait! Its a bank holiday. On this bank holiday I will be keeping this weeks #motavationalmondays short and sweet.

If you find yourself working or in a downer just remember nothing says happiness quite like cake! Cake is marvelous. A garentueed smile bringer, wheather your a fan of carrot, cheese or sponge cakes the list to make u giddy is endless. My cake of choice is and always will be the glorious cheesecake. Creamy, smooth and moreish! Let us know what cake gets your motor running!


So bank holiday cheer yourself up. Have your cake and eat it too! As always make it bold, make it brass and bake it for you


Martyn Out! X

#motivationalmondays